Advice from older people?

give me your best small bit of advice on life.....maybe something you learned from your mistakes or maybe something you wish had done better or found to bring you successAdvice from older people?
Dearly to study your lessons very well whatever for expansions of all your aspects. Make your beautiful dreams happen. To gain more confidence be loving and always feel loved. Choose a good crowd or circle of friends and proper surroundings that will help you shape into a better person. Don't ever feel threatened with disappoinments and miseries that may trigger your person instead take them as your life lessons to be wiser. Remember not to get defeated by sadness too. Think that you know yourself best than others do. Be always true to your heart, be creative, brave and courageous..Try to always look well and be really well inside and outside of your person. Be respectful, compassionate and thoughtful so others will respond to you too..Always stay safe, sane and dutiful. Try avoid jealousy and hate. Live a long and healthy life. Be always brightly and positively reflect on things in your mind. Have a great heart than others, then feel that joy of love and peace in your heart....And most of all Pray for safety and protection to be at your guard!!


And with my sincerity of good wishes within it,


For Yourself..Advice from older people?
thank you so much jeannie kathleen....what an encredible and insightful answer you gave me. Thank you!

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1) Don't fall in love with the wrong person. It hurts.


2) Always learn from trial and errors. Better than most books.


3) If you want things to be done fast, do it yourself. You can't believe how many idiots exist in this world.


4) Love everyone but trust a few. Many people can't keep secrets.


5) Those people who depend on good looks are usually the most incompetent one. They spent too much time on their grooming and no time for studies.
I'm only 13. But I can tell you one thing.





Karma is real, very real. If something bad is happening, something good will happen some other time. Get through the hard times and there will be good after. =] Always.





And apreciate life, because it's the only one you've got. Live it and make it mean something.
face fear, dispel its myths, and explore life. there are way too many things to miss out on, truly.
Always be positive. Mind well, ';You are the architect of your own life';. live the life in 4 ways 1) Think good, 2)wish good, 3)speak good and 4) do good. I assure you that you would be the happiest one in the world.
hmmmm thats a good question!!! Try to stay positive and happy nomatter what hits you in this life. If not that then at least be able to bounce back when things go sour. Stay positive....... u need a part 2 to this question....';How to___';
Be careful whom you accept advice from.


Age is no indicator of wisdom, or even honesty.
The only thing you can be sure of...





...is the possibility that you are wrong.





You stop learning the moment you are sure you are right.
“It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye.” I think the author is unknown.
Listen to the advice of your elders whippersnapper!
';In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.';
Obstain from advices , kid. They lead you to live life of another, not yours...
No matter how tough life gets never give up!!
Read some Kierkegaard.
Don't be prideful.
It's already on my profile!
truth is a function of the human mind, not of things. It's never ';out there';.
When in doubt....JUMP!.....a net will appear.
trust our heart and never give up

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Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?

CRASH DIETS ALMOST KILLED ME , THATS WHY , NOW I HAVE : DIABETES , BIPOLAR DEPRESSION, HEART RATE ISSUES , HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE , ANXIETY ISSUES ..PLEASE BECAREFUL AND THINK OF ME WHEN YOU ARE DOWN , I DO CARE !Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
keep up the good work of warning others. this is somthing alot of people need to hear. i tell my friends the same thing. i'm glad you are for the most part ok and i really hope you get better. :)!


i think you are awsome for what you just wrote.:)Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
dont eat that junk just have a normal diet and play a sport or run around the blok every day make a record time of how long it takes u to go around 1 time and make a record of how ur agility is improving and u will lose weight but it takes long naturlly maybe 5 more than 4 pound loss until mu can run around 5 times without getting tired then u could lose 10 pounds in just 1 month! dont starve ur self and eat bananas to lower ur blood preasure it helps alot i hope u take this advice and dont just stop on the first week ive tried this and my speed and stamina was going up and my weight was going down
I know you think you are helping people, and you could very well be helping some. However, the real people with the problems (well do I have to say it...eating disorders) aren't going to turn around their entire lives because of some comment. I know. It's a hard and confusing path for us but we love it, we know it. I'm not ready to give it up and I know a lot of others like me aren't either.
yep very true
im 16 and thanks for sharing that!
Glad you're still with us.....
SWM, meee too! I care! Moderation in all things. So glad you're encouraging young folks here. They need it! Godloveya.
Your program seems to have worked though, if you are indeed thin.

Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?

I do. It cracks me up how they spend their precious time answering and they take it seriously, only to not have the thumbs boost their ego or whatever the hell it is that they are trying to acheive....heehee. I know* some mean well and answer form experience, but even then it's fun to thumb down, it makes them wonder!! *I THUMB IT DOWN USING AN ALIAS*SO, CHERRY BERRY ISN'T IT!Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
Wow. You're really sad. You need to get a life. Why the hell would you want to do thaT?..is it that amusing to you?..Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
How wonderful for you that this is how you get joy out of life.
How sad and hateful of you.
I just love mature people. No, I don't care about thumbs one way or the other.
Is it just me or did you just admit to using more than one yahoo id? Isn't that against the rules?
No never. I think it's horrible to do that to someone after they have genuinely tried to help.

I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?

I need to change the father on my 3 month olds birth certificate. I haven't gotten the actual certificate yet. Is there a way to change it before i receive it, or will i still have to go to court and do the whole paternity thing? What should i do, do i need a lawyer, i live in MO. Is there a place where a lawyer will work pro-bono? If so where would i find them. Is it even possible to change the father on the certificate? I want her to keep the name that she has, i just want to change the father, can you even do that? I really need some help.I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
If the father that was originally named in the birth certificate is willing to consent to the change it is simply a matter of paperwork, but you will still need a lawyer. The first named father will have to renounce his rights and the other may have to apply for adoption.





If he is not consenting and there is a custody dispute you will likely need a paternity test.





Normally pro-bono lawyers do not handle such matters if it is a paperwork case. If it is a custody dispute or support dispute, you can likely find one or even get a legal aid lawyer. Contact your local law society and they can probably point you in the right direction.





If you cannot get legal aid or a pro bono lawyer, try calling local firms and ask for a lawyer who will take an installment plan. Most lawyers will do this if they know the money is forth coming by way of postdated cheques, or if you own property you can allow them to place a lien on your house.I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
why would you need to do this?
The father's name on a birth certificate should be for real. If ever there is a health danger in the future of the child, then they can trace back her blood line to see if there is anyone else who has the same problem. Ring up where the certificate was sent to and ask them about editing the form sent in.
You said you need to change the father, are you gonna want to change your kid too? You shouldn't sleep around is what you should do.

Why do people ask for advice online?

isnt that what friends are for?


or family?


i mean. also. online you dont have neought time to write teh WHOLE dilemna...in which case you might be omitting some biased facts. or emphasizing facts you want noticed. but if someone is with you through all of this. you should be able to ask them...they have more of an idea of what is going on. and ytour friends and family always want the best for you :)Why do people ask for advice online?
Many people prefer the anonymity of asking online...and many prefer getting input from more than one person.Why do people ask for advice online?
I like different opionions from people from all over the world!,

Need advice on talking to people

I'm 17 years old, and I don't really get on well with people. I really struggle to talk to anyone: I don't know what to say, I feel uncomfortable and it always ends in an awkward silence whenever I try to engage in conversation. I want to try and be more sociable, any tips on what to say and do in such a situation?Need advice on talking to people
Im often like that aswell x





Try talking about random things such as ';What did you do at the weekend? What have you been up to?';





If its someone you have only just met, imagine you have known them for ages - Something my sister told me to try.





The thing i do is, If its a person you have only just met, imagine you arnt going to meet them ever again, so not matter what you say (Whether your shy or not) It doesnt matter becase you wont see them again. - And even if you do meet up with them again, you will know htem better and wont be as shy as what you was when you first met them - If you understood any of that becuase its got me confused and i wrote it %26gt;.%26lt;





Try finding out about stuff they like or their ambitions in life x





Good luck xNeed advice on talking to people
take deep breaths , in school try to talk to your class mates about the work or try to socialise with people that have the smae intrests , well you never know until you try.

Mechanics, or car orientated people, college girl needs advice on vehicle.?

I need a decent car. I know that Nissan's last usually as long as you are good to it. I found a nice used car for college, it's a 94 Nissan with 135k for miles which I know anything over 100k is taking a risk but I need a car, and fast. Good or Bad Idea? Its in my limited price range and I cant get a loan so does anyone have advice? I checked it out and it seems to run well.Mechanics, or car orientated people, college girl needs advice on vehicle.?
cars i have owned; ford tempo (2 of them)= 330,000 km (not miles)


ford Taurus = 290,000 km not as good as tempos


jeep wagoner(the small one) = 290,000 %26amp; still


going


honda accord = 190,000 km then died RIP


stick to north american cheeper parts, last longer.Mechanics, or car orientated people, college girl needs advice on vehicle.?
I too am in the same spot that you are in. I am in the market and I found what I am looking for. This is how I went about my search, I looked for something that was better on gas than my 92 honda accord. It got crapy gas milage 15 miles to the gallon. So anything better than that I figured I wasen't doing to bad. Something that was atleast getting 25 or 30 miles to the gallon.
High mileage Nissans are usually pretty good as long as they are well maintained. Oil changes and regular tuneups are important.


Check it for leaks and strange sounds coming from the engine while it's running. Another thing is to check the CV shafts for any clicking sounds as you're driving or when making turns. The CV shafts are connected to the transmission which in turn are connected to your front wheels/tires. Check for torn CV axle shaft boots. They are made from a rubber like material that tears after awhile.
try to find a honda civic. maybe an adult owned one that was used for commuting. usually good for 200k.
If you are willing to spend a little upfront money, go with the seller to a Nissan dealer and get a complete presale inspection done. The inspector will give you an honest appraisal of the fitness of the car and any work that immediately needs to be done. Depending on where you live, this can cost $150-$250. Trust me, it is money well spent. If the seller balks at this, write him off immediately.
as long as it in good shape now. you take care of it you can expect 300,000 miles from it, every nissan i had got that and was still going good when i sold them.
little high miles what is your price range cause right now I have a nice car for sale it runs and drives my 17 year old sister in law drives it everywhere and it has a new motor in it. it has ground effects and new paint it is a nice car I would want it if I didn't buy a new pickup you can email me if you want details or pictures at jen1999_81@yahoo.com
All cars will need its repair,some more than others,if you like the car,and it fit your budget,take care of it,CHANGE THE OIL EVERY 3 THOUSAND MILES like they say and that car will go for ever....
It depends how well its been taken care of.. spend a couple of bucks and take it in to a mechanic(that you know or trust) to check over. I've seen cars like this run for 300k but thats the exception. 94 is getting kinda old so don't pay too much for it...ps if you don't know a good mechanic don't bother I have been a mechanic but I wouldn't take a car just anywhere... there are honest mechanics but alot of crooked shops too
Nissan is a great car, and 135K miles is not a lot of miles for a nissan. They seem to run forever. It sounds great. I would just take it to a mechanic that you trust and have them look at it to make sure nothing is wrong with it before you purchase it.
Any vehicle over 100,000 will start having ';issues'; but it's a matter of comparing those little annoyances with buying a vehicle that has less mileage, even new cars break down and require repairs. So it's always a gamble, consult the ';consumers guide'; on dependability reports and the ';blue book'; car value guide, but a lot of it has to do with rust and how well the previous owner treated/maintained it or if it's had a lot of abuse and body repair? These days cars lasting 200,000 miles (if no roadsalt in your area) is not unusual. I would guess that vehicle should last another 30,000 to 50,000, while in college you should look more for basic transportation than ';cool'; because strange things happen on campus :P
Well, you're right, anything above 100k is a risk, but sometimes you don't have a choice.





You'll probably be alright, but you do need to have it inspected by a mechanic to be sure. You could be on the verge of needing alot of expensive repairs, such as timing belt, other belts, etc.





If your car is smoking a blue color, its burning oil and will probably actually be ok for awhile, as long as you keep adding to it - but if its burning any white smoke at all, then you may have a head gasket going bad - and thats very expensive to fix.





Just take it easy, make sure to have it checked out regularly, and you'll probably be ok, as long as a mechanic signs off on it.





Good luck.
take it to amechanic and have it checked out first mileage isint nearly as important if the car has had regular maintenance

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Please help with advice! Why do people think I am gay when i say..?

Why do people think I am gay when I say our ALMIGHTY lord Jesus Christ is embedded deep inside of me.





The man suffered for us so shouldn't he be embedded deep down inside all of us.





The man showed us when the going it's tough, he doesn't mind getting nailed for us. We ALL could learn a thing or two from him.Please help with advice! Why do people think I am gay when i say..?
Well, I don't think you sound gay, but you definitely sound like you are a big fan of the Penis.Please help with advice! Why do people think I am gay when i say..?
Jesus was a guy.





';Embedded deep inside of me'; sounds like a sexual innuendo. (IE: ';The other man was embedded deep inside of me.';)





Therefore: the way you are phrasing things makes you sound gay for Jesus. XD Rephrase it or something.
If you feel that strongly about Jesus, then good for you! I think the same way. He did die for us. Everyone else who reads this... how would you feel if you went through all Jesus did, and did it just for someone else and they just did nothing about it but say, ';Oh thanks, but I don't need you, I have my own life.'; I sure you wouldn't feel too proud. After all, He did give you your own life.


And so I think it's great that you feel that way about Jesus. That means that your life is heading in a good direction may I say.


P.S. I don't think it sounds gay! And also, I wouldn't care about what other people thought about me.
I'm sufficiently offended and hope you get reported for asking this ...





I think you have a right to say what ever you want ..and hate report monkeys but I'm offended ..and i understand why they say you're gay ..it's a gay thing to say ..
Just let me tell you something. Say the stuff out load to yourself sometime. Then listen to other people around you, what their conversations are as far as stupid perverted comments. Eventually you will learn what not to say and what to say in public. That will solve your problem.
Because their filthy words that come out of their filthy lips show their filthy thoughts of their filthy minds that comes from their filthy hearts. So, why do you even listen, that is pay them any real attention, or care what they say?
I think it's your use of the word embedded.


I'm a Christian, I understand what you're saying and agree, but I'd simply use a different word. Perhaps instilled.


Just a thought.
matthew:chapter 15 all the way thru just read it in the bible cause these people on this yahoo answers you can tell that they not of the lord the, the devil is in them and they dont even know it.
If they are saying you are gay for that, gayness was on their minds---I mean they think gay all the time, or should I say, like the world, and not godly thinking.
i think Jesus does exist inside us, and so does god, we just have to have faith in them. so don't listen to what others say or think of you. Just believe.
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No, because he's dead. Now unless you're a necrophile, you should probably stop saying that.
its gay because your being overdramatic
LoLoLoLoL I dunno.:)
I don't think you're gay, I think you want to have sex with your mother.
Sorry,jesus never has been deep inside me...
Kneel before the Coming of Christ.
You're not funny.
ppl just dont understand the whole concept of jesus and they think its dumb they just dont kno what they r talkin about
I'd like to be deep inside ToolGirl
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I'm not reporting you, but somebody is bound to do so.
we cant know their thoughts......





it isnt the right way to say it so they think youre lying.....born agains dont say stuff like that...
crap...
yeah its the work of satan dont listen too people praise jesus for what he did on the cross its satan that decieves people
don't worry about what other people say, it only matters how you feel! If you feel strongly about Jesus then be proud.

I'd like to relocate to AZ. Can anyone tell me about the people and give any other general info or advice?

I live in Phoenix where the majority of the population is from another state or country, so I don't think there's really a way to describe how the people are here. It's a big city (4.5 million in metro area) so there's people from all walks of life here. If you move to Phoenix stay on the North side of town or the suburbs. The South and West side has a lot of crime. I would also avoid Scottsdale unless you like being around people who judge you by material wealth more than character.I'd like to relocate to AZ. Can anyone tell me about the people and give any other general info or advice?
the people here are diverse, theres all sorts of people, every kind of person you can imagine.





phoenix is a huggee city, its where i live. theres a lot to do around here.








it reallylyyy hot in the summer though, it can make you feel sick how hot it gets....but you can cool off by going swimming and that stuff.





the weather isnt terrible in the winter, no snow in phoenix, although it does snow in other places like flagstaff.








all around its a pretty good place to be. :)I'd like to relocate to AZ. Can anyone tell me about the people and give any other general info or advice?
As everyone else said, it's too diverse for there to be much general info about the people in AZ. It's also hot as hell. Phoenix is especially boiling. Some places do get snow, but AZ in general is a really hot place. It's mostly desert as well.

Do you think it's right for this guy DJflare99 to go around giving people legal advice?

He himself claims to be an ER doctor...given his answers I think he is not. Then he goes around on here giving everyone legal advice? I'm just a little flustered. He mentioned something on a queastion I had....well basically he told us we were sue happy and iggnorant. Turns out we were right and now my 3 year old is in the hospital, and the doctors office has been closed due to malpractice. I didn't take his advice becasue that would be stupid....but I'm afraid some people on here might. Any comments?Do you think it's right for this guy DJflare99 to go around giving people legal advice?
While it may not be right for someone to give bad advice on a site like this. Without restricting free speech it is hard to do anything about it. If he in fact has a license to protect, he should be more careful about what he says. There is no substitute for bonafide expertise and the buyer must still beware.

Advice on how to impress during a People to People student ambassadors interview!!! PLEASE!?

Okay, this is my first interview....that determines if I get selected for the program.


I'm really nervous and the advisors said they need students who STAND OUT(in a positive way).


I need some ';impressors'; and ANY suggestions you can give me.





Greatly appreciated to all that help!


:]Advice on how to impress during a People to People student ambassadors interview!!! PLEASE!?
I've also done People to People before, and I too was nervous before my interview. Don't stress about it; it's not as bad as you may think. There's only around 8-10 people in the room. Just make sure you be yourself. During the interview they pretty much just ask you the same types of questions that they asked you on the Interview Questionaire included in the application. Keep a smile on your face, and make sure that they know that you're interested in being an ambassador. It's not that big of a deal, even though I know it seems like it is. The best thing to do is to just be yourself, and participate alot. Good luck on being accepted! If you have any questions about any other aspects of the program, feel free to email me! =]Advice on how to impress during a People to People student ambassadors interview!!! PLEASE!?
Confidence is the best way to make a good impression. Before the interview, prep yourself by going through all the reasons your perfect for this program.( Convince your self before you convince them.)Also, keep in mind your body language is VERY important. Keep your arms un-crossed, maintain eye contact, smile when appropriate,and stand up straight. A good way to stand out is to be outgoing. Introduce your self,find ways to add ideas or comments to conversations, and ONLY say positive statements. Nobody likes negativity. Most of all, relax and enjoy yourself. If your having a good time, it will make your interaction that much better. Good luck.

I'm speaking at my church for the first time in front of people. Any advice or things to add?

I'm going to be speaking to some of the youth interns at my church. We are Christian non-denominational. I'm not exactly sure what the ';theme'; of my nugget should be yet, but I pray and ask the spirit to guide me. I know I want to center it around the poem The Vision by Billy Kennedy and talk about how Christians must stay focused on God and change the generation in the long run, no matter what stands in thier way. I also provided some scriptures to hilight some key points. Any good quotes, scriptures, or anything to add that has to do with keeping focused on God? Thanks =)I'm speaking at my church for the first time in front of people. Any advice or things to add?
To be Gods people don't let the World infiltrate their thinking to be set a part and Holy for God. It is rare we see this anymore. Follow his vision for their lives. Trust God he will give you what to say!I'm speaking at my church for the first time in front of people. Any advice or things to add?
You might consider a fast to help draw closer to the Spirit. It is interesting that you would choose vision. I just attend a world wide missions Conference and that was the theme. You may think about reminding them that God has a purpose and plan for their lives...that purpose and plan should be their vision.
Psalm 78 talks about keeping the ';talk'; focussed on the greatness of the LORD, and the deeds of the LORD...so the next generation is able to learn what the principles and meaning of the true gospel is...





Prepare as well as you can; use personal experience to make it real to your self...if you are excited by it, your hearers will be too...and remember not to let your nerves





';hurry '; you ...take breaths, pause...but keep it coming ! You will do fine...just remember where your help comes from !
Keep it short and simple ,speak to the back of the room so you will be heard


,Stick with reading of the words ,not off the top of your head you will get mixed up ,Do your own punctuation for your own breathing. Find a friend read to them.





Pray.
Yes! Get out of the way and let G-d have His perfect will. Don't be at all surprised if you get up there, and G-d completely changes what He needs you to teach.





This is the voice of experience - I've been speaking at my church recently, and just today G-d again changed what needed to be said at the last minute...as I was taking the platform.





Just be available, and let G-d be G-d.
Since most of your audience will be younger, you might find some quotes in 1 Timothy where Paul is telling a young minister how to stay on track.
just add this line after you finish your speech





';This speech is purely based on fiction nor is there any evidence to support the claims made, just pure speculation, buyer beware'; Thank you.
Well...uh...I'm sure the Bible has a lot of good quotes that have to do with staying focused on God...:
|I would recommend taking some beano a few hours beforehand. Just to be on the safe side.
A great speech is ';6-6-6 Yam noigiler dne yllanrete!';
Take a few drinks, like God says in the Bible!





Jeremiah 25:27-28 (NIV) ';Then tell them, “This is what the LORD Almighty, the God of Israel, says: Drink, get drunk and vomit, and fall to rise no more because of the sword I will send among you.” But if they refuse to take the cup from your hand and drink, tell them, 'This is what the LORD Almighty says: YOU MUST DRINK IT!





Hey, how would you like to have the Bible God as a bartender? I know it is a bit too primitive, but with a little training he seems to have what it takes! He must be serving some cheap whiskey in this story! BTW, God doesn’t ID! If drinking is a sin do you think that God would force his chosen people of Israel to get DRUNK to the point of VOMITING? You better start praying RIGHT NOW that if you feel that God is about to chastise you for whatever reason that you have the chance to have a few drinks first to pick up some spark, but please no matter what the Bible says, don’t overdo it! Drinking until you collapse is about the pattern in the Bible, and the dysfunctional Bible God loves to watch you VOMIT!





The Bible God made King Solomon “the Wisest Man ever to set Foot on this Earth!” And this is what he has to say about drinking in his book of Proverbs.





Proverbs 31:6-7 (NIV) Give beer to those who are perishing, wine to those who are in anguish; let them drink and forget their poverty and remember their misery no more* (*I always hear all the opposite from a preacher, WHILE THE PREACHER DOES DRINK, but discreetly in the closet, of course!)!





The Priestly Bible writers are saying that nothing beats a good shot of hard liquor to get you back on your feet! I just wonder what makes the Christians today so prude and intolerant! It must be a Victorian Era hangover, not from the Bible!





Zachariah 9:17 (KJV) For how great is his goodness* (*God’s goodness), and how great is his beauty* (*God’s beauty)! Corn* (*fermented corn whiskey!) shall make the young men cheerful, and new wine the maids* (*even in Bible times, wining the ladies was most appropriate!).





1 Corinthians 9:4 (KJV) (Saint Paul says) - Have we not POWER to eat and to DRINK?* (*Yeap, but Christians today don’t go for that anymore!)





God sets himself as an example of how much to drink!





Numbers 28:7 (NIV) The accompanying drink offering is to be a quarter of a hin of FERMENTED DRINK (KJV ';strong wine';) with each lamb* (*The Jewish Priests used to sacrifice lambs by the thousands so you can imagine how many US Gallons of booze that is…) POUR OUT THE DRINK OFFERING TO THE LORD at the sanctuary* (*BTW, the “sanctuary” of The LORD must have smelled like a cheap bar joint with so much booze offerings poured all over the Altar!).





The Bible writers are telling us what it is like when this Boozer God wakes up in the morning with a terribly hangover…





Psalm 78:65 “THEN THE LORD AWOKE AS FROM SLEEP, AS A MAN WAKES FROM THE STUPOR OF WINE”





Yeah… after all that fermented drink and strong wine offerings… red eyes… vomiting all over like when he was forcing everybody else to drink until they vomit… cursing like Hell… lacking good judgment.... and ready to start killing Christians especially those who are not up to date with their tithes and offerings! Christians came up with the crazy idea of shutting down liquor stores and bars on Sunday mornings during worship hours! It is like slapping God’s face real hard for demanding a “strong drink offering!”





Revelation 14:10-11 (NIV) [Jesus says] ';he, too, will drink of the wine of God's fury, which has been poured full strength into the cup of his wrath.* (*sheer boozer God talk!)





2 Peter 1:21 (KJV) For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost* (*this statement comes as an epilogue to the Bible so you know that the Bible God inspired all that was written in it! Or was it the smoke of some notorious “burning bush”…?)





Preachers won’t tell you this much because they know what to skim off the Bible so your faithfully giving to The LORD won’t waiver! Christians hate atheists because they tell you like it is in the Bible, without giving you any “spiritually speaking” crap! And all the gratitude that I am getting is TDs!
How about you give a Speech on how Jesus is not God, and how the Jehovah's witnesses are right.

Do people really need our advice on telling someone they like/love them?

Hey, I like you...


Honey, I love you...


it's so easy.Do people really need our advice on telling someone they like/love them?
Hey.... Iamgirl... I love you.


I love me too.





But I don't wanna go out with myself.Do people really need our advice on telling someone they like/love them?
I think most of them are young kids who just need re-assurance.
it gets old fast
I think if a lot of this is should be common sense ,if their serious[ o my ]but they ask for that contact [reach out of the darkness,need someone to gab to.
no
Asking for advise on-line has the advantage of allowing you to ask questions that you could not ask your friends.

pink blush

Why do people ask for advice but they already have their mind made up?

I think a lot of people want to answer questions that no one is asking them. So they create ';questions'; that allow them to express themselves.Why do people ask for advice but they already have their mind made up?
They just want to validate the beliefs of those who believe the same thing as well as their own. To have followers, or at least people who agree with you, makes you powerful and egotistical. Tisk.Why do people ask for advice but they already have their mind made up?
They want confirmation for their decisions.
They ask for advice so that they have confirmation that the decision that they have already made is the right one.
GOOD Question!!!!???? Why are they so nasty to you !???? I am not sure but, What r they ah thinking!! Some of these folks are MESSED UP!!!!!
simple, becuz they are unsure about things but depending on the person, he or she might or might not change their mind after hearing the advice
I think you already know the answer to this question.
I just dont know maybe because we seek other peoples insight
people are unsure of themselves, and they need reassurance that they are right
They want to know that there are others that agree with them.

Can i have advice for the bad breath people?

I think this might help:


(1) the person might be having tooth decay, so see dentist; or


(2) the person is having throat infections, so try gargaling the mouth with salt water (using edible salt and dissolve in drinking water every morning and night). do consult doctor to cure the infections; or


(3) Having bad stomach, so see doctor; or


(4) Rinse mouth after meals especially if taken strong smell food like garlic; or


(5) Not having enough sleep for days, may have bad breath


(6) Not brushing teeth (I once had a girl friend at 10years old didn't brush teeth daily)





In general drink enough water and rinse mouth where possible. If there is problem, consult doctor.Can i have advice for the bad breath people?
it could be from poor hygiene , body chemistry , poor teeth. Yje best thing to do is see a dentist who can tell you more.Can i have advice for the bad breath people?
Suck strong mints and use mouthwash regularly
Brush after anything you eat %26amp; mouthwash, floss, %26amp; use mints often... also see a dentist
See a good dentist if it's a problem. You could have an oral problem.
take care of your breath by having a good program of oral care and oral hygiene. be able to brush and floss teeth properly every after meal to remove food particles that are left between teeth which are source for bacteria to multiply. also keep the mouth hydrated by drinking adequate amount of water everyday. avoid eating garlicky meals. use an all natural oral care product that have essential oils to help fight the cause of bad breath and keep bad bacteria at bay.





visit http://www.oramd.com for more bad breath care tips.
Drink lots of water..When I don't drink water, my breath smells. Next, don't take listerine or any mouthwash items. It makes the bad breath worse. Just make sure you brush your teeth in the morning and in the night before sleeping. Hopefully you will ';smell'; the changes.
If it is a friend/acquaintance who has bad breath, tell them they have halitosis. It is the scientific name for bad breath, and it won't hurt their feelings when you tell them.


If it is you that has bad breath, try eating a breath mint, chewing sugar free gum, or brushing your tongue better when you are brushing your teeth. If symptoms persist, see your dentist. It may be caused by tooth decay, or could even be a side effect of a medicine.
give them toilet paper to clean it out.
Let them know, but keep your distance.
bad breath may be caused by improper washing of mouth,having any digestion problems or by not cleaning ur tongue.the third and the first r the main causesand one should take care to wash their mouth thoroughly so that no food particle sticks inside.always remember to clean ur tongue and brush atleast twice a day. HEALTH IS WEALTH
try to make two points by making a tic tac in there
brush ur teeth and your toungue..buy a toungue scaper thingy cuz thats what makes the breath smell..all the bacteria in your toungue..DONT forget to floss!!
Put a few drops of tea tree oil on your toothbrush top it with toothpaste, and then brush your teeth. Tea tree oil can also cure gum disease, which is possibly the cause of your bad breath. More useful remedies at


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Advice from people with experience?

this girl in school i know not really good she showed some signs of liking me i but now all she does is ignore me and hang on this other guy that is her friend (there not GF and BF) could she be playing hard to get she still steals a glace at me sometimes and walk really close to me (in my personal space) and brush up agaisnt me a couple of times dont know if its on purpose or what but she lets me get close enough to her to touch her


i never really talked to her or told her i like her


Today i smiled at her when we made eye contact like a light smile and she seemed to start paying more attention to me


Does she even like me when im around her she constantly (i know this is sign of nervousness but idk if its me or some one else) straightens her clothes, fix hair and kind of tilts her head in my direction doesnt look at me though


i know i should just tell her but i dont want to just throw myself out there she has to be more clear if she likes me not ignore me She acts if im invisibleAdvice from people with experience?
Just ask her out before she changes her mind.Advice from people with experience?
um, she sounds like she likes you


ask herr out

I really need some honest helpful advice people - please!! I'm desperate?

I want to start of with a brief introduction.. I am 23, from London. I have a huge passion for music, mainly RnB but anything really. I enjoy watching GOOD films and spending time with close friends and clubbing in the west end. I sound like a fairly standard 23 year old. I say this as I have read a few similar ISH questions on here, where the people tend to be quite depressed, lonely, suicidal etc THIS IS NOT THE CASE!!


OK This is where the complication comes in.


I have suffered with eating disorders (primarily anorexia nervosa) on and off since the age of 14.


Since my fiance and I broke up a year ago my weight has ranged from 84llbs to 105llbs. (I'm 5ft1).


I am now in a steady relationship with a man I love, entirely.


Although I am now at the higher end of my weight and since being with him it has crept up. I know he has noticed as he has jokingly referred to my belly as mount everest. To be fair, its not far off!!





I physically repulse myself now though when I look in the mirror.


I don't want to go out most nights as I genuinely feel people are looking at me because I have put on weight. Which is ridiculous I know as I am still smaller than the majority of people at my university.


I don't want to skype my old friends and family as I feel they will look at me and see how plump I am getting and think what a lack of self control I have.





I am keeping myself awake at night over this, and have started to not eat anything 99% of the time but then that 1% - I cant stop myself having moments where I go crazy and eat loads and then try and throw up.. (not every time as it is horrifically disgusting)





AT THE SAME TIME, when my boyfriend holds my belly, I find it hugely comforting and I like it. Whereas previously in my life if you had touched me I would have freaked out... go figure..





I really just want to know if anyone can relate to this, has felt similar in the past, is feeling this way now or has known anyone!! ANY constructive advice would be great :)





Also - Ok I really dont mind if you want to be rude or call me a freak but its never really very productive. Think it - dont write it. I realise I am strange so save your breath, as it were.I really need some honest helpful advice people - please!! I'm desperate?
It sounds like you have a body image disorder :( Maybe eating disorder? at best if you weigh 105lb.. that is no where near being over weight, let alone big enough to repulse anyone. I do understand how you may feel after being so small for the majority of your life, and then to put on a few pounds may cause you some alarm when you look in the mirror. But even for 5'1'; 85lbs is way too thin. Did you ever stop to think that people are looking at you because you look so much better? That maybe a little bit of flesh on your bones IS INDEED attractive to 99% of the population and you're just getting checked out? I really hope you will seek counseling, the way you're feeling is not normal.. and what you see in the mirror probably isn't a reflection of what others see when they look at you. Please please talk to a doctor about this, chances are they can help you, you have a right to wake up every day and see yourself for the beautiful deserving person you are. %26lt;33I really need some honest helpful advice people - please!! I'm desperate?
Does the love of your life know how you feel about your image? Does it bother you when he pokes fun at you? If it does, you should tell him it does and ask him not to do it. Apparently, when you look in the mirror you are ashamed of what you see. Are you malnourished and your stomach is extended? Have you seen a doctor recently? My friend has lost a great deal of weight, over 100 pounds. She looks wonderful, yet she gets very upset if anything is mentioned to the fact or if anyone looks at her. She still feels fat. She has been heavy most all of her life, until about 1 year ago. Why do you think your family will judge you? They will probably be very happy that you look healthier, instead of mere skin and bones. I think we as humans, worry way too much about our appearance. I also feel we are very hard on ourselves. It's what is in our heart that truly matters, not our physical appearance. We think people see us as we see ourselves and it is just not true. You have to love yourself first, no matter what you look like. Remember...God loves you just the way you are.
You are a creation of God (psalms 138:13). And this means that you were made perfect. You are at a good weight and i cannot picture mt. everest on your belly! i am 5'2' and weight 105, size 1. You are just fine, any lower is not healthy.


The measurements for beauty are man-made and not from God.


The media is the one who has decided whats pretty and not. Not everyone has to agree in order for you to be beautiful.


If they don't accept you as you are, they are not worthy of being your friend.


Beauty shines from the inside out.


And God loves you, more than any human in the world could ever love you.





John 3:16 says For God so loved the world(you) that he gave his one and only Son,that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.


Know Jesus Christ: know peace, love and acceptance.





Before you can truly love You have to be able to love yourself and know that God loved you first!


1 John 4:18-20


there is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.


We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, ';I love God,'; yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen.





Pray to God, he has all the answers, and has good plans for your life.


Read Jeremiah 29:11, 33:3





Proverbs 3:5-8


-Trust in the LORD with all your heart (Trust HIM)


and lean not on your own understanding;


-in all your ways acknowledge him, (SEEK Him)


and he will make your paths straight.


-Do not be wise in your own eyes; (you can't do it ALONE)


fear the LORD and shun evil.


-This will bring health to your body


and nourishment to your bones. (He can cure you!)





may God bless you and guide you in all that you do! -Yesi


Feel free to write to me.

So I took people's advice, do I look any better?

Before:





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After:





http://a149.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/108/l_15a2e9171fc7d2de08a947c60e3ca004.jpgSo I took people's advice, do I look any better?
I don't see the difference, your bangs are just to the side instead....So I took people's advice, do I look any better?
slightly prefer the bangs on you in the 1st pic, but they look good on you either way. It more struck me that you have quite a elongated face shape, so i feel a shorter hair cut would make the real difference. actually this being all too picky, have confidence, your face is stunning and hair colour is amazing, so just love it all
I like the first picture better. I wear bangs and I love them! I feel more like myself with them. But whenever I see my mother, she always pulls them off my face and says, ';Look at that noble forehead! Why are you hiding it?'; I say, ';I know it's there. Who else needs to know!'; That always makes her so mad!


Thanks! This was fun!
I think you look much better with your bangs! they suite you very well!! if you just trim them a little bit! I think it would look great.. but who cares!! what matters IS HOW U feel about yourself!! right? Im sure that everybody could easily tell you, that you look wonderfull! but if you dont feel it.. it wont make a big difference!
I actually really like the bangs on you. Not everyone can wear them, but the color is really good on you.
yes, the side bangs are better. but they will look better when grown out a little more.
Yes I like the bangs :)
You look really good in the before picture, your bangs are nice. :]
very pretty
Hm. I'm not sure. I think you look older in the second picture.
YES! Bangs look way better.
You look a lot better after:) x

How can one give advices to unknown people?

How can one give advices to unknown people?


here are a lot of sections where people give advice one to another, without knowing each other.........(sometimes on important themes / problems). what do you think of that?How can one give advices to unknown people?
I think that sometimes, it's alot easier than giving advice to someone u know. You remain bias in this forum, that's the beautiful part.

How old are the people giving dating advice?

Post your ages?How old are the people giving dating advice?
31 yep I'm old but experienced so advice is easy I've already made the mistakes.How old are the people giving dating advice?
28, dated the same guy from 8th-12th, have 5 best guy friends, married twice, widowed once, 24 first dates, my husband is 21 yrs old. and had a twin sister that had a different boyfriend every few days. mother of a 7 yr old daughter and a 4 month old son.
14, I see that there are lots of different ages, but heading towards the younger people.


That's good isn't it, because you get a bigger range of answers!


%26gt;.%26lt;
21 but don't know everything


im here to fly the flags for long term relationships. :)
17. Started giving advice at 16.
17....and lots of experience
16 turning 17 in january
18 baby!
46 plus 2 points
Will be turning 24 this November-:)
48 yrs old
17


how old r you
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16
24/married and mother of 3 girls
A mature 14 year old.
14!!!! haha, nearly 15
17?
Just turned 16!!
15 u?
hey i get best answer on these relationship questions..14!

What kind of sites are there where you can pay for peoples expertise or advice?

I'd like one where you can chat through e-mail, or IM. Preferably not one over the phone.What kind of sites are there where you can pay for peoples expertise or advice?
Most lawyers have email addresses...What kind of sites are there where you can pay for peoples expertise or advice?
I don't think there are or there is exact website you are talking about in internet.

Why Do Some People Give Advice To You, But Look At Someone Else?

and they don't even know it?Why Do Some People Give Advice To You, But Look At Someone Else?
in this life its hard to understand many many things...we can only try...or move onWhy Do Some People Give Advice To You, But Look At Someone Else?
Looking for reinforcement.. Or trying to show there authority when they have none.. Or trying to impress the other person
simple........some people just flat out don't think
reasurrance

Spiritually speaking; doesn't it make you feel special that people want your answers, advice, and opinions?

Doesn't it feel good that some faceless, nameless, spirit actually wants your opinions, and is asking for them?





I mean, where I live, strangers don't really care what you think. This forum's sole purpose is to ask people what they really think. The great thing is because it is anonymous people are free to answer with the truth (among other things).





Strangers sharing sensitive information with strangers. Things that NEED to be talked about amongst the people of our world.





Isn't it great? Thoughts?Spiritually speaking; doesn't it make you feel special that people want your answers, advice, and opinions?
I love it


the interenet was the best thing that ever happened to me really


I am alone most times and to be able to speak and share and get to know people from all over the world


yes it feels goodSpiritually speaking; doesn't it make you feel special that people want your answers, advice, and opinions?
I like it because I live in the armpit of the midwest, and people around here are very closed minded and shallow, in general. I have very few people I can talk to with any depth, and none that I care to discuss/debate spiritual issues with--usually because I don't trust that their assertions come from education, but rather just ';what I feel';.





It's great to see that there ARE people out there who are similar to me and interested in the same types of ideas and philosophies, or at least in sharing WHY they think differently in a coherent manner.
I tend to agree. I am still surprised every time I happen to get a BA, too. Is my opinion really all that worthwhile? I mean, it is in some categories, like US Tax, because that is my profession, and I give well-researched and referenced answers. But R%26amp;S is just my opinion, most of the time.





BUT, I respect and value the advice, answers, and opinions that I get here, so I suppose it should be no different for anyone else. I don't know if anyone here really, really cares what I think, but they seem to pay attention on occasion.





Ask on!





Blessings!
Aren't we all here to ask/answer questions?


I look at it as more along the lines of sharing information!! Imput, and knowledge!!


For shut-ins, and people who don't have a lot of friends, this place is great for company!!





Advise is free, and the nice thing is that you don't have to take it!


And opinions are like ? well, everybody has one!!!!
Well, I wouldn't go as far as saying they WANT my opinions. But since it's an open board, they get them.





Sometimes what I say makes sense, strikes a chord, other times it doesn't. That's OK.





I've learnt at least as much as I might have 'inspired' here. Much more, probably.





So yeah. It's all good, in my opinion.


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Yes - it broadens your outlook in a way. You realise that not everyone shares your views. I imagine this could be quite a surprise to some people! Also, people can give their honest opinions instead of having to be politically correct - although that's not always a good thing.
Most people here don't want truly honest opinions. They're seeking validation for what they already think.





If all questions were forced to be sent to vote, not guaranteeing that an answer that lines up with the asker's existing viewpoint, very few people would participate here.
It makes me feel special that you guys care enough about me to give well thought out, articulate and sensitive answers to my requests for opinions and advice. Thank you. :o)
They just think they want my advice, answer or opinion... when it comes right down to it its a thumbs down for me because I shoot from the hip and say what I feel needs to be said, not what they want to hear..
It certainly can be a rewarding experience, as long as you don't let the doomsayers and negatoids get you down.
:-D





Well, it is a good way to kill time. And a relatively painless way to interact with other people.
Spiritually speaking, I'm just in it for the laughs.
yes and sometimes it makes me feel better even if they didn't want my opinion.
I get VNs all the time...!!!
Yes, you are right.


One finds himself usefull and worthy.
sometimes but many times im wondering where are their moms?????????????????

pink blush

Need advice from matured people above 25 yrs?

Is Love real?


Has anybody fallen or risen in true love and lived with him/her?


I havent! Do I have hope?Need advice from matured people above 25 yrs?
Sure, you have to lay aside looking for looks, money, job, sex, material things %26amp; appearance in a person. Just the ability to live together %26amp; good character. I have seen many people look for $$$ %26amp; appearance, %26amp; fight all the time,,,money, looks, %26amp; big boobs do not equal happinessNeed advice from matured people above 25 yrs?
Love is real, its just not something your suppose to look for. all you need to do is relax have fun, and when you think you are in love you need to test your self and then when you understand it and feel it, its going to amazing for you and you wont let it go ever. but there is a fact that you can push real love away so remember that also. but live a little and dont worry about it and you do have hope and love will find you.
God has implanted in the heart of man this thing called Love.


Yes. As a practical example your parent.


From your question i can understand that you are still very young. You know every body do pass that experience of loving in one way or another.. Just wait for your turn. When it come you will know it.
Love is so Real! you feel it emotionally, you lust for it sexually and you cry for it mentally!





Men don't always say it but when they do, they do it with the 3P's





Profess it!


Provide!


Protect!





Women are nurturing by nature! We will show it, say it and prove it. We are more of SHOW ME THE MONEY! If you don't get this from a women then it's not really their.





Good Luck!
I lived with my husband for 4 years before marring him then 2 years after divorced him, and after a year we started living together, and we have been together now for 4 years as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Maybe you're looking too hard. Just try being happy with yourself and most of the time love finds you.
Yes its real. Although what love truly is u discover along with life and as u grow old and mature. The definition will change and sometime u ll realized u have never loved, although previously u thought u were in love
It is real. I met my present husband when i was married to my 1st, I was 28 and he was 22. Eventually i got a divorce but when we met and it was over the phone, but we grew up hearing about each other(he met my husband 1st and asked for my number).


Anyway, from there we were inseperable and our family did try to seperate us because i was older and married, but we have been together 12 years now raising our 2 children, have a home and are very strong loving family.


There have trials, but last night we looked at each other and loved each other just like we did 12 years ago. Beautiful feeling when you love and trust your other half.


You can find it, or better yet, it will find you when it is the right time. It may be tomorrow or after your 1st or 2nd marriage, but I believe that some of us do find our true love eventually.


All the best.
Love is real. but... its not perfect! sometimes you have to get over the small stuff because you LOVE that special someone. i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. we definitely have our arguments.... he leaves clothes on the floor and i ***** for him to pick them up... yeah he gets mad because he says i over react and i get mad because i say its not hard to pick them up,,, but because we love eachother, im not going to break up and try to find a perfect man, cuz they dont exist nor do perfect woman! hes probably going to do it forever, and ill ***** forever, but we love eachother so we live with it! Good Luck finding love or being in love!
There's a slight difference between love and life





If you truly love someone that's great but your life has to mesh also.
It does happen, i have been married to my husband for 7 years, we are the happiest that we have ever been...we dont regret anything that happened along the way, becuase it has made us who we are today.





There is someone out there for you,, just follow your heart.
well tru love its real but just like it happend to me, tru love most of the time hurts so if you are so lucky tru love might not hurt you but it could not be the same felling to the person you love.
Yes it is real, But you have to talk to a person to really get to know them before you know its real.
it exists, i know because my parents never argued and were always holding hands even today in their 60's they are always happy.
Any time I thought I was in love with someone or falling in love with someone...I was actually in lust, obsession, infatuation, or something like that...most of the time after getting to know those people better, I realised it wasn't love at all. I am now just looking for someone that I am compatible with and find interesting enough that I could make a life with them. I of course plan on loving whomever that man might be...but as for falling in love with someone...I don't believe...Good Luck to you though!!!
yes it does happen. I have been with my husband now for almost seven years and it has been great. Everyone has hope, one thing to keep in mind it will happen when u r not looking for it. So just but it to the back of your mind get out there and meet some new people. Have fun and just take things one day at a time. Good Luck.
my first and genuine love occurred at age 10 and i'm not sure why we need to be above 25 years.... i mean, i qualify chronologically, but not psychological age.





yes, it's real. it's as real as real gets. it pushes you to be best you can possibly be.. flowers get brighter, wine taste sweeter, (but big mac is still big mac and it still tastes like sh*t... i just had it for lunch) things get clearer...





yes, keep hope alive.
Love is real - I found it with my 3rd husband. It feels like the love I feel for my children: I accept him totally for exactly who he is.


Not that I think of him as a child - NO WAY! A great big HAIRY child (lol!!)! But it's just feeling that we belong together, we are totally comfortable with each other all the time, and that he could never do anything that would make me leave him and visa versa. It's like we've known each other all our lives. We've been married almost 8 years %26amp; it just keeps getting stronger for us both.
Sure you do. I'm married, age 32. Real love is what it does. It's more than word games, but the action behind the words. I love my wife when I go to work to provide for her, cook dinner when she's tired, give her a foot massage when she's aching. Love is working 2 jobs to make sure my children are taken care of, starting a business to invest in my family's future. Love is what it does more than what it says. You can have that. I'm sure of it.





George


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Yes I have but it didn't come until my 30's I had to know thinking I loved someone to know when I'd eventually meet the one I do love.
I have been married to my wife for almost 17 years, and I would say that love is real.





However, ';love'; is a metaphysical construct that can't necessarily fit into a single definition. I loved my wife when we were first married, and I still love her today. That love is different, though. The first was more of a physcial attraction, and enjoyment of spending some our best years together. The second is more of a sense of admiration and appreciation for staying together through the good times and the bad.





Don't get me wrong. I'm not just staying with her out of appreciation and admiration. We do other ';stuff';, too. :)
just be happy please, do those things that makes you happy.
Of course you have hope. Allow relationships to grow gradually. Never follow ';stages'; or ';steps';. That's a horrible mistake, which fills many potentially good relationships. You need for form a solid friendship before anything further can grow from it. A big misconception many people have is that friendship and relationships are such different concepts. They're not very different. Your husband/wife should be your best friend. Sexual feelings don't make a relationship. A lot of people think that, but those are the relationships that tend to be full of unnecessary drama and trust issues. It's not about sex. Sex can be a form of expressing love, but it's not the only one. People try too hard to ';find love';. You can't just pick a person and jump into a romantic relationship. It's all about the growth of friendship. Allow your relationship to grow in the form of a slope, which is the only way it will work properly.





Heath
I personally believe there is someone out there for everyone. You are still young, you still have time. I know people who doesn't find true love until they are in there 40's. Give it some time.
Well, I stopped looking for love.... and one evening as my girls and I were heading out, I saw this awesome truck with one heck of a stud driving it! I said ';nice truck';... He came over after he parked we exchanged a few words and I took his number. I called him the next morning, we went out that night and the next day he asked if I would be his girlfriend.... It was SO cute!!!





That was back in 2000, been married over 6 years now, have two kids together and I love him more each day. Is it ';true love';? I think so... To me, ';true love'; is loving someone the way you want to be loved, unconditionally looking at them as if there is no other out there and choosing to stay when a storm hits.





Sure, we're not perfect, but I would rather fight with him then try to live with someone else. We have more good times then bad one now.... and sometimes life gets in the way. But, all in all, we have a pretty good marriage.





He still makes me weak in the knees, and I still get butterflies. I see myself growing old with my husband and sitting on the porch swing enjoying our retirement. :-)





Do you have hope? I hope so! Only you can answer that though... Have faith and hope that you too will find that someone who will love you for you... just stop looking for it....





As my Mom always says.... a watched pot never boils... So, stop looking and it will find you when you least expect it!

People management issue. Advice needed- how would you deal with this?

2 weeks ago I was recruited by a financial services company to manage a service centre in the UK. The centre has been open for 3 yrs and has been losing a lot of money. My job is to find out why and to fix it quickly.





I have found is that the centre was being run by the staff not the managers. The staff were used to coming in every day and selecting which parts of their jobs they want to do and only doing those.





In addition the staff (who are largely young, inexperienced and recruited into entry-level clerical and admin roles) have been led to believe by the prev. manager that they are professional consultants. They are not qualified to be consultants and there is not a role for a team of consultants so training them up is not an option.





The business needs them to do the roles they were employed to do. I am getting a lot of staff resistance to the changes as they r 'better than having to do repetitive menial tasks every day'.





Any advice on how to handle this situation?People management issue. Advice needed- how would you deal with this?
NICE! A good deal of the answer is dependent upon other items you may not have addressed in the description. Example; are they unionized? Is there a written employment agreement in effect? Are they aware of their responsibilities/ do they have job descriptions? What is your expected turn aroound time? What are the expectations of your employer and what are their time frames? Will they support your decisions? OK, enough of the questions, I apologize.





Taken at face value, you'll have to decide about your level of commitment to these people. You are in for a 6 to 9 month draining battle if you want to make a turn around with the same people. You will be left with 2 major options and 1 untenable one. 1) Invest time with the present staff and create a turn around.


2) Weed 'em out and start anew.


3) Leave it the way it is. (Gee, I wonder which one is untenable).





If you invest time in the present staff you will be confronted by skepticism, still face resistance, and will likely have to let some people go. You will also gain the respect of the people who change and make a decision to stay. It is important to note, that you are currently an interloper and have little credibility in their eyes, making this decision fairly difficult. However, since the other 2 require the least thought, I will continue to expand on this solution.





In your description you identify managers that are not managing. To these people you need to get their head in the game. Explain to them that they are currently an expense and you are evaluating perfromance to determine which managers are performing their jobs and which ones are choosing to be separated from the company. If a manager begins to speak about his people being the problem, remind him that they are reponsible for the performance of their people. When a soccer team under performs, the coach gets sacked, when a work team under performs.... It is key that the managers are invested in their people and are pushing them towards success.





For the non managerial workers, grab a job description and the manager for the team, and sit with the groups ( I am assuming that there is more than one job description at this facility). Tell them that you were hired because the centre has been losing money. It is your job to improve performance or recommend a closing of the centre. Ask them to teach you their jobs and ask several questions. Make sure the groups manager is participating and give him a heads up regarding your plan. Spend at least 2 hours one day actually performing their job as described to you with one of them close by to assist you should you have any difficulty. After all, they are the experts. Upon completion of that time meet again and discuss the duties as outilined in the job description. If someone is ';above that menial task'; have them explain why and explain it in front of the group. Ask them to pick the person from the group that should perform the menial task. Connect the menial tasks to the big picture and divide them up among the group. Work with the individuals to accomplish the tasks and offer praise for excellence, not common effort but excellence. To the people that state they are consultants, meet with them privately, discuss the qualifications as if they were interviewing for the job and they are a living resume. Point out where they fall short, the need for additional training and licensure and why the industry requires this training/license/registration. Show them a career path and the requisite work experience and education so that they have something to aspire to. A menial task is a state of mind. It is up to you to change that opinion and that will only happen if they can put the puzzle together. How is my filing these forms relevant to the profitability of the company? Make sure you can show them how their specific contributions matter.





Phase 2 is getting the centre profitable again. That involves greater analysis. The profitability of the centre may not be due to the performance of these workers and they may be just a smoke screen. You will need to evaluate processes for redundancy to eliminate wasteful practices. You will also need to look at your revenue drivers. Are they selling appropriately or they offering 6% discounts and your actual margin is 5.8%.





There os about 4 more months of information to share with you but I am running out of time. I hope this helps and I hope you are good at statistics. If not, take a couple of courses, (preferably taught by graduate level professors because that is where you will really learn to apply statistics). Good LuckPeople management issue. Advice needed- how would you deal with this?
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start lining up replacements- fire the first one who doesnt want to do their job and replace them with a good candidate who would be someone good to have around- hopefully that one move will get the rest of them on track





remind these young people that they have to earn their way into this field like everyone else
There is a well worn cynical answer to this one. You make the laziest most useless b....d the team leader, responsible for the performance of the others.
Personally, I would explain the situation to them, and let them know that they DO NOT run the business. If they do not want to change, then I'd ask them to turn in a resignation. Either go with the flow, or find another job. If they think they are that qualified, they will find out in the real world that they are not. Might sound mean, but who runs the place anyhows?
Woof. That is a tough situation to be in. I guess, if you have a superior, talk to them about the situation. Let them know that these people have shown an ';unwillingness'; to do the job they were hired to do. If you are employing them to do a certain job, and they are not doing it, then they are a liability to the company. If they refuse to ';change';, get rid of them and hire new folks. It won't be hard to replace them, if they are inexperienced and entry-level. Maybe ditching a couple of the worst ones will encourage the others to ';step up'; and start doing what they are told.
Tough, but this is what I would do...





Clearly communicate goals and objectives for the business and the team





Identify who will be an asset and who will be a liability. You have to match the skills to the requirements.





Conduct one on one interviews to see who will buy in to your ideas.





Communicate what you are doing to senior management. You may have to make hard decisions about restructuring (firing) people





There will be no quick fix. Time will be the judge as you need to see the financials over a period of at least 1 yr.





Look at costs - see where you can cut wastage and be more efficient.





It sounds like there needs to be a big shake up and you won't be popular so don't try to be.





Good luck
pick out a few of the worst, use them as an example, fire them! this will show the rest of them who is boss.





If that doesn't work, recruit better employees?





If that doesn't work, means it's time to question your ability as a manager!?!
I think you need to get a few people from different sectors - staff and management to do a time in motion study. That will show them what they spending most time on.. it will also give good analysis on where the time is wasted.





You could then get someone to make up task lists for everyone.
Sack 'em all and start from scratch.
If you've been brought (parachuted) in to do a specific job , firstly , why haven't you any ideas of your own?. You are the 'new broom'. You also mentioned staff resistance , make sure you have them put into their diaries a date for a general staff meeting. It's no use telling them separately. By the time the date (you have set) comes around , you should have in place , the changes you want. This is not a time for democratic discussion. Tell them , in no uncertain terms , how the business will be run. They can 'go with it' or resign. You'll mostly find that there will be lots of moaning for weeks ahead and you will be unpopular. It's human nature to resist change , not unusual in companies. You will have to show you are upbeat about the future and ask for reliable and flexible personnel. It sound that the staff have formed themselves into a clique - break it up right away. It would also be a great idea to bring in new faces and train them up from scratch.
Use or Create a job description based on each of these person's job they are supposed to be doing. Put this in writting %26amp; submit the appropriate job description to the person it applies to. Then also draft a letter stating that this is the job description of the job they are occupying... if they choose not to fulfull that job description they will have to be terminated and replaced with someone who understands that the company must have persons fullfilling thier job roles. Explain in that letter that any information given by previous persons as to the nature of the job tasks is to be considered erroneous %26amp; is not an option any longer. They need to sign a copy for company records that they have been notified and that they have been warned. If they refuse to sign, write refused to sign in the area where they didn't sign and date it.





I don't even fault the young, inexperienced group. I fault the group above them that placed them in the jobs %26amp; allowed them to believe these were thier jobs. And I would SEVERELY punish even to the extent of firing all persons involved for costing the company so much money!!!!!
Many of the other answers are very good. I would come up with written job descriptions for each of the positions. Then have a general meeting. Explain to them that the company needs a quick turnaround and one way that is going to happen is for each of them to fulfill ALL of the duties of their job plus any that you ask them to do in addition that they are capable of doing. Tell them you know that each of them is very qualified to perform these duties (even entry-level clerical people) and that you hope that all of them can get through this and out to the other side with you and their co-workers because you value each and every one of them. They will then either do the work for you, or quit, or make it necessary for you to fire them.
Sounds like the scenario is that there is no managerial managing and the staff doesn't need management to function. I would suggest starting a managerial structure since you said there was none. Start being a manager. Start managing the staff. Simple. Start with a structured management model on paper and introduce the changes to the staff in a meeting encompassing all of the staff with the intentions of enabling vertical management structure changes and the restructuring of the horizontal structure of the staff. Eliminating the influence of the staff which is running the company prior to getting there deserves to have a look/see as to the strengths of the staff structure with and without vertical managerial influence. Knowing which parts of the staff structure indeed needs less management being seperated from the remainder of the staff that needs more attention. Maintain your managerial model to be accurate as your design. It has to be clear as to who is management and defining the duties of the staff under management and not horizontally being a part of the staff yourself. Tell them you will start leaving the crust on their cucumber sandwiches during high tea if they don't straighten up. Do not allow for vertical managerial structures to appear in the staff level where things should be horizontally structured. If vertical structuring is needed on the staff level make sure that duties are shifted in this vertically limited structure to allow for all to have part in the staff that gives all an oppurtunity to experience all functions of the staff so they will not have power struggles or resentments and have the ability to perform each others duties when needed limited of course to ability but allowing for the understanding of all functions to a degree. All companies have a managerial structure chart as to the way the company has decided to structure and run itself and you as a manager are in obligation to use the already defined structure and enforce the managerial structure design as prescribed by the company.
Let them know they are all a valuable part of the team. Each teammate has an important job that needs to be completed everyday.
Point out that the unemployment line is NOT the place you wanna be this time of year-


no matter what, you won't be popular so just do what you were paid to. tell them comply or face termination. simply put.
Tell them they can either do their jobs or you'll find someone who will. You'll probably have to fire a few of them to get the message through to the rest.
Human consciousness itself is never fixed but continually changing and developing new categories and concepts. These determine how we experience the world, so that knowledge is always the result of a series of conflicting positions - hope this helps.
Well, there are a lot of possibilities.





In order to keep employees happy, it is fine to call them consultants and to call the real consultants, ';senior consultants.';





An important step would be to evaluate the employees based on the tasks they are currently performing. Some may be performing well and others may not.





You can determine the tasks that need to be done in the office and the time that needs to be devoted to each task. See which tasks are currently being performed successfully and by which people and match them up with the tasks you have identified as necessary. Meet with those people and let them know that their jobs are intact.





Meet with the other people and tell them that some restructuring needs to be done in order to keep the office profitable and open. Tell them that the tasks they previously did are no longer necessary and tell them about the new tasks that are available. See if any of them express an interest in any of the new tasks. Tell them that you realize that some people are going to be upset with these necessary changes. If some people prefer to leave, tell them you will provide a decent reference for them as long as they will do a good job for the remainder of their time with the company. Assign those people the lower tasks. As they leave, replace them with lower level workers at a lower salary. In this way you will retain the best people, let go the worst and lower the expenses. You will be in control of the situation. If you force everyone to do lower level work, the most competent may be the most disatisfied and may leave first.





Further restructuring can occur along with normal attrition.
Tell them to shape up and do their job as they are expected to or you will clean house and find people who will do the job correctly. The first person that hedges gets a pink slip. That will make them know that you mean business. They'll either get to work, or leave. Hire some people who know how to do the job efficiently and go for it.
srry cant help u there i got bored after the firs 3 sentences!

Im starting a new highschool ,and want to meet people before it starts any advice ?

Do any of your neighbours go to that Highschool? Where do they hang out? If you can find just a couple of people, invite them over to yours for a BBQ or something, so you can get to know them and show them you want to make friends.

I am a loan officer that can help some of the people asking for advice, but I dont want to violate the tos?

What can I do????I am a loan officer that can help some of the people asking for advice, but I dont want to violate the tos?
Don't violate the TOS. Answer questions. It's really quite simple. Don't offer services or contact folks. Give advice.I am a loan officer that can help some of the people asking for advice, but I dont want to violate the tos?
I don't believe you would be violating the TOS.
Give them all the advice you want. You just cant sell or adertise your particular services.

Why do people offer advice, but when they are asked to help they decline?????

Perhaps they are just busy when you ask them. Try again.Why do people offer advice, but when they are asked to help they decline?????
Because giving advice is free - it doesn't cost them anything, but if they helped or got involved it could cost them in a number of ways (I don't mean financially!). It depends on the situation, but most people don't like taking sides but prefer to 'sit on the fence'.Why do people offer advice, but when they are asked to help they decline?????
Because they sux
I have found that most people willingly give their advice without being asked because they can say that they have done so on their own. This way, if you don't take their advice, your loss, and if you do take their advice and it goes horribly wrong they will say '; I was only speaking my mind, you didn't have to listen'; But when you actually ask for their help, you are actively soliciting, saying that you value their opinion and have just created accountability for the person who is giving you the advice. They don't want to be accountable; that's why they decline when asked but freely give on their own.
You are people, I am people. We all are people.





What was your question again?
It's easy to talk the talk, not so easy to walk the walk...
Typically, I'd say it was the other way around. People find it un-natural to be negative but apathy and ignorance is much more suited.





For example, when a mum has to take a buggy down a flight of stairs. Person after person will just walk past the struggling woman, but if she stopped someone and asked, they probably be delighted to help out.





However, asking for help is a sign of weakness, and usually the mum will just struggle herself and then complain when she gets to her friend's house.





As for advice, perhaps if it's about a relationship, it might sometimes be wise to decline to back away from being caught in the middle of a squabble. Say you live with a couple and one asks you if she should break up with him, the guy will feel like you told her to do it and may be angry with you.





Advice is best given by someone independent, try discussing relationships with people at work and vice versa.





Then again, perhaps you're not asking in the right way, or asking for the right advice.





Ask advice here, that's what it's for!!
don't rely on nobody try doing things for yourself, some times we are all busy doing our own stuff.
advice is free, cheap and widely available. It makes them feel and look important.





Help is scarce because it cost time, money, comitment, responsibility and accountability. People are basically shy of committing. Just in case it fails.
Because anyone can give lip service.
some people are just rude
Its human nature!!!
maybe theyre just busy
cuz they might actually have to do something physical other than have sex with you
Aren't you asking now? I'll help if i can.What's wrong?
This is all to do with doing the right thing at the time. Most people feel it is there duty to offer help or assistance, but this is maybe to make the person feel better and they do not think their help is need. Its like watching your neighbour or a mate pack up his/her house and when they are almost finished offering them a helping hand. It is the same sort of thing, they offer hoping you will say no thanks!!
Because telling someone how to fix their life is easier than helping them fix it. Most people would rather watch tv.





Now shutup.....Americas Most Wanted is on and I have to watch to figuire out if I'm safe for another week or if I need to move.
Because they are stupid....





Seriously because if they help and it goes wrong thy do not want to be blamed
If it's within your family they don't want to get involved in the fight or disagrement


If it's for volunteer work it's because they're lazy bums.
people by nature do not want to commit themselves to something they will not benifit from, as you get older and your group of good freinds grows this change's a stranger will not commit themselves but a good freind will
They dont have a solution to the advice .

Why do people ask a question advice and other people jump down there back at them?

Well, three comments occur to me.





(1) You can report answers that breach the community guidelines.





(2) Too many users ask questions that are really an abuse of the idea behind Yahoo! Answers. Here are some examples.


a) the shout-out, e.g. hello, is anybody out there?


b) school homework / university assignment


c) the query easily answered with a simple internet search


d) the jokey question or pun


It is no wonder that there are so many abusive answers when there are so many abusive questions.





(3) In my experience so far, the majority of askers do not choose a best answer. When you remember that the asker has the option to select ';no best answer';, if s/he is dissatisfied with the response, then that failure seems even worse. To me it indicates that the question really was not that important to the asker.Why do people ask a question advice and other people jump down there back at them?
I don't know what your other ';Q'; was so it's hard to say .


People on here tend to say mean things though


because no one knows who they are .

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Do you ever feel like just taking people's advice and going away forever?

why would i ?


wouldnt it be more fun to stay %26amp; bug them..


%26amp; hunny if you have people in your life who tell you that...i really suggest you find some new ones..





you don't deserve that !Do you ever feel like just taking people's advice and going away forever?
No I don'tDo you ever feel like just taking people's advice and going away forever?
@ tyms maybe
only if the place has clear blue skies, sand and lots of drinks......








oh, sorry.


no one should be telling you to go away and if they are, leave them, they are the ones with a problem
What good will it do..??
go away...you are depressing me
ok what's wrong!! ur asking all these questions that are making me sad and yes i do and yes to mostly all of ur questions!!
On the days I feel like that, I refuse to get dressed. I spend the day i the house, in jammies, watching television or movies that I enjoy. I call them non-participation days. Try it. You won't want to fell like going away for good after a day like that. You will, instead, feel rejuvenated and ready to start a brand new day. Tell those people that they would miss you if you went away forever!!!!!!
Yes... but I continue to hang on because I just can't go away...

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Hey i'm going on vacation and need some advice from you people out there. please and thank you! :-)?

hello everybody. where do i start? okay...well i'm going on vacation in two weeks. it's a very nice place with lots of teens my age and many many hot guys. it's right on a beach too! there are people of all ages and generations there. it's quite fun.





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I have Social Anxiety Disorder & just recently figured it out, I need advice from people who have experience?

I also have bi-polar %26amp; depression


but this one's cost me the most damage


I used to isolate myself %26amp; my friends noticed a change in me but I thought it was cause I had mental disorders, but know I think it's cause I acted so strange since I forgot how to socialize with people. I lost alot of friends %26amp; want my old life back but other than medicines %26amp; theraphy what else could I do to help overcome %26amp; live with my disorder without it interfereing %26amp; getting my life back.?I have Social Anxiety Disorder %26amp; just recently figured it out, I need advice from people who have experience?
It's different for everyone, and those with extreme cases of social anxiety disorder may find they require formal treatment, but for me, I employ the simple ';fake it until you make it'; approach. What I mean is that when I see myself withdrawing from social situations and finding comfort in isolation, I make my self go out and pretend that it feels fine.





Eventually, it is fine. The worse thing for me is to let myself give in to the temptation of too much alone time.





Good luck!I have Social Anxiety Disorder %26amp; just recently figured it out, I need advice from people who have experience?
Everyone is a little different on that. I helped my difficulty by finding my own way, after I tried several therapists and prescription drugs. The therapists did help me in the right direction, however. But they indeed can only do so much. And drugs were not for me, because I like a clear head. I know they say that Zoloft and others have few side affects, but they were still ones I couldn't live with.





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I used the patch and quit smoking two days ago - Need advice from people who used the patch to quit?

I am on the patch and have not smoked in two days. So far I'm doing okay, just a few really strong urges that I have managed to suffer through. I quit last year for 6 months but ended up starting up again. This time I'm determined to quit for good! My question is what do I do when I run out of patches? Will I be able to stay quit? I was able to go cold turkey last time but this time I need the patch because I couldn't do cold turkey again, too stressful. Any advice from people who quit with the patch would be appreciated. I need some encouragement please!!I used the patch and quit smoking two days ago - Need advice from people who used the patch to quit?
Remember, it is your choice to smoke, no one is forcing you to light up. It is totally the drug addiction you are subject to that is driving your desire for that cigarette. By choosing NOT to smoke at each urge you have, you help effect behavior change on your part. And if you do light up, do not consider that a relapse consider it a ';momentary lapse in better judgment'; and start over again as if it did not happen. I found it helpful to avoid situations where I would usually have a cigarette. So I changed my routine, for example, I had coffee in the morning, the newspaper and usually I had a cigarette with it. I stopped drinking coffee under the same circumstances, I still had the coffee, but not sitting at the breakfast nook. I became a real pain in the a$$ to those around me who were smoking around me-that all stopped. NO CIGARETTES IN THE HOUSE, OR AROUND ME, PERIOD. I started running in the morning, it was about a 2 mile round trip to the coffee shop, so I started walking first, got some coffee, then walked back In a few weeks I could run over there and run back-the human body never fails to amaze me with its repairative and recuperative properties. Make your own custom routine, THIS IS SERIOUS, no relationship, no friendship, no activity, no job, nothing is more important than stopping smoking. When you look at it that way, you will succeed. If I can do it, anyone can, and I have no doubt that you can-make it happen, do not give up.