I need some good advice from people who are divorced and have kids

My boyfriend has 2 kids they are 6 and 10. He pays child support and is not behind at all. It is a battle everyday with his ex wife on when he will take the kids. She works part time and he works full time. He is a security guard so his hours are not that great. He works weekends and his days off are during the week. She insist that he takes them every other weekend. she came right out and said more then once she needs that time so she can go out with her boyfriend. My boyfriend sees his kids every week. He is not one of these fathers that is not in his kids lives. But he cant take them on the weekend he has to take them on his days off (during the week) in his divorce papers it says the partys have to agree on visitation if they cant then the court will decide. We went to a lawyer and it will cost $1,200 to have this fixed. We dont have that kind of money. She tells there son that my boyfriend does not want to see them he is making excuses. I started back in july writing down every time we have them. We go no more then 4 days between visits.But I have had to miss work a few times allready for this to happen. What can we do. I need some good advice from people who are divorced and have kids
First, you don't have to have a lawyer to go to court, but it's unadviseable to go in there without some sort of counsel.





My question to you though is why are you putting yourself in the middle of what is essentially none of your business? He is NOT your husband and they are not your stepchildren...yet.





Don't add to the drama. Stay out of it and leave it to your boyfriend to face his responsibilities and let him deal with these issue with his children's mother.I need some good advice from people who are divorced and have kids
This sounds harsh; but you need to find a boyfriend who is not so encumbered. Sadly, this woman will be a part of you lives forever 鈥?even if you get the visitation thing worked out, she鈥檒l always want to cause trouble 鈥?just because she can.





Again, this will be forever. Children grow up, get married, grandchildren are born, yeah, this woman will always be there 鈥?causing trouble.





Do you really need all that drama?



Without her having a change of heart the lawyer is the only way this will stop. Keep writing down when he has them.





Also those children will be able to figure out as they get older that their mother is a liar. Your bf needs to just keep being the best father he can be and they will see and appreciate that.
Since your husband works weekends and she knows it, the visitation should be set for your boyfriend's days off. Tell her if he is to have the kids every other weekend, then he will have to work fewer hours and have less money for child support. That will certainly get her attention.
This is just Drama by the baby mama; let her follow her own misguided path. The Kids will resent her downing their dad, she is making it bad for her self. Don't change a thing, and leave the lawyers out of this they only want your money, this is a problem, which requires no action.
I really hate this question, it reminds me of the situation I was in when my children were younger.





Why can't he take the kids on the weekend again? Oh yes, because he works. She doesn't work during the week and yet she's still able to have the kids?





How is it the men always want the kids when they don't have to work however, women are expected to keep the kids whether they are working or not?





**sigh**
What does the paperwork in the divorce decree say about takeing the kids?? Go by what the paper saids to do, I know it's written down, he should take them only when the papers state he can take them, he can go to the court house and ask for a legal aid to respresnt him for free, something to think about. Just say NO when she does this the two of you, to bad if she doesn't like it !!!
do not take them so she can have extra time for her boyfriend, that's not your problem... or his problem...





she has to deal with it, that's that...





don't let her run your life...





good luck! obviously the man she is with is pressuring her to get them away, he probably hates kids... and she does not want to pay a sitter, nor does he... don't give in!





and remind the kids when they are with him that sometimes he has to work, make them understand...! =)





keep keeping track of the time you are with them... don't change jobs for her, either...





she's just jealous that you 2 are happy and they are not, lol!